How can I really help others

Today I realized that many times we repeat the idea that "Nobody can give what he has" and in my life had a wrong perception that I want to share.

For example when someone has financial problems and asks for help, but you know (maybe the other person does not know) that you have even more financial problems that this person, I was a bit incongruous give me some advice about something I same I could not control because "I can not give what I have not."

Only today I realized when reviewing my notes, which will reap what we sow, and if you want to have good finances to help another to have them, it is perhaps true that I have not succeeded, but if no one helped keep my negative cycle and I can not leave my cardboard box to explore new ideas.

So what do I do?, I ask, for creating a good intention to help others out of their financial problem, I've noticed that over the great knowledge or experience is the clear intention to serve and help others so I help plant a seed out of my own problem and in doing so on the other I am also opening the possibility to learn new ways and options for walking. I just understand that ultimately NOT LOSE ANYTHING. In the process I'm honest and I can I Privacy Policy Tell the other person that I thought some options or alternatives, hopefully you can serve filled with a positive and clear intention to serve while I'm growing, I use two tech to help others in their problems and self-discipline to force myself to look for new options.

This is a breakthrough in my way of life, there is no limit to help others, there are only excuses so I can serve them, and I too along with the other person look for new ways to move forward together and they help us the joke is risking losing the fear and grow in your life.

The same can apply when trying to help a friend in her marriage even though mine is not the best, but it can build and sow great things without the pretext that "as I will help if I can with my life, "I have realized that it is a selfish and conformist position and we can change.

And I find myself realizing that serves to Everything in your life.

The question now is when will you start taking action, to be an actor of your life and not just a spectator of your problems?

GBY

Alfred

Let it go

On many occasions the actions or events that we have in life leave us stuck in negative feelings or memories. Some of us work hard for us to let go of things, overcome, we were like broken records in the past repeating and repeating, trying to fix or assimilate something that is no longer present. And fortunately or unfortunately as you can not change that fact in the past, so if you can do is adjust your perception of this fact and let it go quickly.

If for some reason we have a difference with our partner, boss or friends and our relationship is rubbed, often try to acquire a position of Ego and maintain our position. The real question is that you want to "Be Happy or be right", I'd rather be happy, but in the end it's your choice.

Release the past and hold on to your present as the most valuable in the end as the name says is a gift your "Present".

The question now is when will you release your past to live intensely a Present?

GBY

Alfred

My life is a Chaos!!!

It is a fact that life is constant chaos.

In this space that we occupy everything is moving, there is nothing constant or stable, everything is still evolving. This can be very exciting for some people and for others it could be depressing.

Why you can have clarity in your life, you must learn to manage the constant chaos and create a pattern of action that you can have stability. Let me explain with an example, if our life is a vehicle and must travel on a highway, we have to draw the line on this, because if not we would be like going into chaos by a path that is not defined nor its boundaries or its direction (the whys in your life), and this, if not clear, creates constant chaos, in fact many are in your vehicle and often do not know they have this address space or highway and that is why it it, set limits on one side and the other of this highway to, to create harmony within the chaos and live your life happy and driving.

But to do so we must understand that Joy and Passion plays two important roles, are the raw material to build that highway by which you want to move. The cheerful self and snatch a smile to others is a very important driver that will generate great stability. And passion is the inexhaustible energy that keeps you going even against the worst storm or tired.

So we will take action and have a smile for those around us and create a healthy joy (not mocking or making mockery of others), give others a great review of affection for anyone around us is to sow harmony.

Create fun for others is a fun and unique benefits and fruits activity, we are surrounded by many people who are like robots in their lives, such as a cashier at the supermarket, it's like a robot in his life, he was glad and snatch have a smile and make your day fun. Obviously it's highly recommended you start with your own home or your primary environment.

Do not give up creates great passion, great energy and positive attitude, your fight against passivity and inactivity, exercise, stop the excuses and eat well, change hours glued to the television or Facebook for activities such as walking, talking or even listening to music you love dancing. Remember that being tired or having no time is your little voice a pretext for not doing what you love and live happily.

Do not give up BE HAPPY AND LIVE WITH GREAT PASSION.

The question now is: who are you going to make life fun today?

GBY

Alfred

Uncertainty

One situation that can cause a lot of stress and disharmony is uncertainty, not knowing what will happen, this is like leaving our lives in roulette and bet that something will help us in our lives.

I think this way because we would not like to drift uncontrollably.

When I look and I see things with a higher level of  Consciousness then I can start to see different things.

Consciousness is like seeing life from different floors of a building, having a consciousness of the 1st floor, can not understand that having a consciousness that is on the 25th floor, for more clear and detailed that you can explain the 25 to the 1st floor, the latter does not understand. When you're on the 25th floor you can clearly understand that your actions are creating your life, to the floor 1 is something you do not understand and what you do is blame your partner, boss or the government for all their problems.

So we're moving in our lives and many think that someone else has to do things in our lives to work. It however see the 25th floor they are the causes of their lives, there is no guessing if they act properly understood as the world moves from the heights reach to understand, see and feel everything falls effectively. They are fully aware that they plant their lives thinking, acting and speaking either positively or negatively. Uncertainty goes elsewhere because they understand that if they act properly can not go to negative. The first thing they do is acquire responsibility for what they did with their actions when they were in the lower floors and urges them to order and disable everything negative that could cause insertidumbre in their lives.

It may sound crazy, it will depend on which floor you live, but you're the one who built this life like it or not. If you begin to avoid as many situations uncertain, take control of your act.

To paraphrase my teacher Michael Roach "all our good and bad comes from us, as we have tried others in the past," that simple, but do not remember what you did, this will have an effect on your life, so today you can take control and start sowing acting, thinking and speaking, a life without uncertainties.

This is very effective if you see on top of the building and disappointing from the floor 1st floor.

The question today is what you do with your life today? And what want so much uncertainty in your future?

GBY

Alfred

Beyond the border

Beyond the border

Limits, Personal Development, Business Development, Sales and Leadership

When you are traveling around the world, I have observed many times as the territories of different countries use the term boundary to define the physical space they occupy, limiting or defining this site are powered sovereignty.

The curious thing about all this is that rather than trying to find the dividing lines between these countries, when I go on the plane and see through the window today still find it.

It's funny how we as human beings are capable of establishing borders or boundaries where none exist, then create a whole infra structure to protect swashbuckling these spaces.

Studying one of my masters, Bucky Fuller, observe that we are all called up this huge spaceship earth traveling at thousands of miles per hour in the universe and of which we are unaware.

I begin to understand that many times, some of us, we set boundaries or establish small (although we think they are very large), and the only limit is our ability to imagine and grow.

Funny how an elephant when it is small one leg tied to a string and tries several times to let go, but after several attempts to understand the limit and no longer try again in your life. Create a boundary or barrier in his behavior and when a huge elephant, just add a weak chain in his leg did not try again. He does not realize that he has grown just a little pulling may be easily released.

My great learning to be in Exeter (England), is that for many years I dont barrier not work somewhere with a different language to me, because others told me (and let me tie the string as the elephant) it would be better if he were calm and able to work in the huge Hispanic market and stop thinking nonsense.

Today I work in Europe doing what I love, and I have managed to break that chain, boundary or limit I had in my head.

My big thought is how many other strings can break in my life?.

My learning is that if I try, I'll never know if he could or not, so I remember a phrase my best friend (Tony) told me many years ago "friend of this world is that ateven".

You have to dare to do what you dream, risk, measure it, but be sure you give a step further to grow.

Remember that you accepted without questioning the barriers or boundaries of your life, now you are aware that no one can govern in the privacy of your thoughts, that's where you really live these borders.

I invite you to dare to do little things that give you confidence and help you to see that this world is your creation and you can see, feel and enjoy new horizons in your life, you lay aside the old beliefs that others chose for you and which you gave them strength (and perhaps could be someone you loved or love much like your parents or partner), recognizes his good intentions, but in the end you have to take the lead and complete control of your life loosin chains of attachment and ego.

The question is what border or barrier'll break in your life today?

GBY

Alfred

PD. Remember that great seller no boundaries for their actions and a leader known as cross border and cross helping others grow and break old harmful beliefs for them.

The Superhero

When I hear the word superhero comes to me some times when you have to save the world, helping to protect others (in my case Ironman).

This thought seems very successful if we are clear and do not pollute with feelings of revenge, resentment and revenge.

So why do not we talk about the superhero who could be you in the lives of others, surely the little voice some of us began to tell us for example "I have enough trouble now and obligations to be thinking about being a superhero," come one better these superheroes to help me and save me. At the bottom of our hearts, that we, for someone to come to "save us" but the reality is that no one is coming to save you if you do not help others. As many of you know you have to give what we want, to plant a super saving another action that you return to that super power to your life. The problem is we do not know what to do, or hear sounds very nice but in the end what do I do? And if my self-esteem is a little low I can say things like I'm not good at that?.

But let's be practical, if not start growing your action, nobody will do for you, and take that responsibility is the first thing you should know.

The best way to do this for example is in the morning on a ride in the car turn the radio off for 4 minutes and think of one or two people who can help you help to create in your mind clearly thinking to run it that way and get to apply it, that action may simply help with your coffee or something simple to complex as you wish, or  you charge your newspaper from the floor to her desk, I suggest you start with things small. It may be that your you become an unexpected hero with a small action for you, but for the other person may mean life saving. This is no exaggeration, perhaps you take coffee to a girl in the office or known is something that say small and easy, but imagine if the other person is depressed, disappointed because their relationship is not going well, death or crossed a problem at the wrong time and become one of those inexplicable races that frankly, you want to die "Hang the towel", and suddenly you get a coffee from scratch. Guess what? Sure you become a great superhero.

This is awesome and real, in a workshop than I do, on occasion thought was a routine and boring work, but this morning I thought I could do something for someone, do not know who would be, but appeared to recognize a girl for their participation in the workshop when in the break approached me to tell me that, you just saved life was about to kill someone and commit suicide, I stayed froze, told me that a friend had given him the ticket for the program and that he had lived had rescued, was impressive in my life (this is a true stoy). The friend was a SUPERHERO, in the life of this person.

Many times we do not realize we can be angels else, because we do not value the small details, but you are a great hero to many people imagine a world with these characteristics would pass very well did I not.

Well you can create it and as a result create this for you, so stop complaining and blaming others for your life, take the reins and build the life you want and surely some superhero appears in your life.

The question is, are you going to take action? Or you will remain the most active in your own life loser. Who'll be the hero today?

GBY

Alfred

The pressure of an important meeting

IYour mind is stirred to know you started an important meeting, you will enter a sales meeting, give a talk or you will ask him to marry your beloved. This is very common for most of us, and it is normal because we are close to having an event we know that in some way affects our lives, but the voice inside our head we start working, guessing and assuming countless situations that can potentially occur. But the reality is that 70% of these situations are imaginary, created by the little voice and will not occur.

I tell you what happened to me in London, had traveled several hours to get to a meeting of shareholders in a British company, I did not know all the people who submitted a proposal would also have to do it in a language different from mine. Of course I prepare a lot and consider what I should do and things that would have to explain and say, it seemed that I had to know I had it in my hard drive.

But minutes before the meeting my little voice started attacking me with questions like, what if you do not speak clearly? And if they want something else? What will happen if they ask you something you do not know what if I say no? , all this crap went through my head, and being honest for a moment I thought and, what need I have to do this?, but then had to stop and silence those voices in my head and retake control honestly not was easy, because in doing so he was starting another internal battle.

What I want to share is how I did it to get by?, For many may be evident and can fix it quickly, but for others it is not (I belong to the latter group).

So take action to breathe deeply a few times and I first became aware that he had just been kidnapped by my own little voice, I told him who sent, even if it seems absurd I said (and I said to myself out loud) "Here I command"

Then I opened the space to realize that I had to do something physical, like shouting, dancing or just put my attention elsewhere.

Do not over-study or turn around what I already knew, because this would give me a sense of impatience or anxiety.

After this prepare me to start, I went to the bathroom, and I focus on what I was doing.

I started to be "here and now", a presence and just let everything flow needed, trust me. ( I do all this in the lobby of a hotel full of people)

These steps you can use without any problem, and get great results, in my experience often what stopped me was my own insecurity and low self esteem in the end we fear to exposure publicly.

If you are and you present yourself as you are, that's the best card you can have in your life, I think.

Eventually after a long day of meeting after meeting the result was better than I imagined, and found that 70% of the questions and fears that had NEVER happened and existed only in my head. Beware, it is not safe and not leave everything to the inspiration or improvisation, is a matter of putting things in place.

Another important point because the meeting is to understand that if they ask you something you do not know can be honest and say I do not know, thank the person who question and seek an answer later. This was a great lesson too, do not need to know everything about everything, but sometimes you do not have the answer and try to turn it around and in many cases end up more lost.

The question now is, are you ready for your next meeting?

GBY

Alfred