The pressure of an important meeting

IYour mind is stirred to know you started an important meeting, you will enter a sales meeting, give a talk or you will ask him to marry your beloved. This is very common for most of us, and it is normal because we are close to having an event we know that in some way affects our lives, but the voice inside our head we start working, guessing and assuming countless situations that can potentially occur. But the reality is that 70% of these situations are imaginary, created by the little voice and will not occur.

I tell you what happened to me in London, had traveled several hours to get to a meeting of shareholders in a British company, I did not know all the people who submitted a proposal would also have to do it in a language different from mine. Of course I prepare a lot and consider what I should do and things that would have to explain and say, it seemed that I had to know I had it in my hard drive.

But minutes before the meeting my little voice started attacking me with questions like, what if you do not speak clearly? And if they want something else? What will happen if they ask you something you do not know what if I say no? , all this crap went through my head, and being honest for a moment I thought and, what need I have to do this?, but then had to stop and silence those voices in my head and retake control honestly not was easy, because in doing so he was starting another internal battle.

What I want to share is how I did it to get by?, For many may be evident and can fix it quickly, but for others it is not (I belong to the latter group).

So take action to breathe deeply a few times and I first became aware that he had just been kidnapped by my own little voice, I told him who sent, even if it seems absurd I said (and I said to myself out loud) "Here I command"

Then I opened the space to realize that I had to do something physical, like shouting, dancing or just put my attention elsewhere.

Do not over-study or turn around what I already knew, because this would give me a sense of impatience or anxiety.

After this prepare me to start, I went to the bathroom, and I focus on what I was doing.

I started to be "here and now", a presence and just let everything flow needed, trust me. ( I do all this in the lobby of a hotel full of people)

These steps you can use without any problem, and get great results, in my experience often what stopped me was my own insecurity and low self esteem in the end we fear to exposure publicly.

If you are and you present yourself as you are, that's the best card you can have in your life, I think.

Eventually after a long day of meeting after meeting the result was better than I imagined, and found that 70% of the questions and fears that had NEVER happened and existed only in my head. Beware, it is not safe and not leave everything to the inspiration or improvisation, is a matter of putting things in place.

Another important point because the meeting is to understand that if they ask you something you do not know can be honest and say I do not know, thank the person who question and seek an answer later. This was a great lesson too, do not need to know everything about everything, but sometimes you do not have the answer and try to turn it around and in many cases end up more lost.

The question now is, are you ready for your next meeting?

GBY

Alfred

Best Communication

When we talk about communication comes to my mind to define what is communication? and being simple, communication is "be as one", both sender and receiver must feel oneself in thought, be on the same frequency and people to achieve being Present (here and now).

One of the secrets of good communicator of ideas is to start by being a good receiver thereof (listening). The best sellers are people with the ability to listen to achieve genuine communication set.

This is why we first have to go to the world of other people and interest for them to achieve One feel.

The problem is that many times people keep physical silence to hear what the other is saying, but the chatter in my head will not leave me alone and starts to send information, for example, to be with your partner "that is not true, things did not go well "or with a customer" I know what you need. "

In both cases when you do this, you're breaking communication because you're not being one (the other might not notice but I sensed or perceived), in fact, sometimes I have been asked in the middle of a conversation "I're getting attention?", probably most of us has this ever happened to us and break the line to communicate clearly.

It's not easy because often the murmur of your little voice becomes very intense and do not even detect automatically because you have lived "quickly trying to think the best answer."

In my experience and practice, when you manage to be present and silence the little voice to listen to others, manage to sell or talks wonders and relationships that make your career and your life, and create communicative Harmony.

Hey, are you listening?

If you're now here and now reading this, I am communicating with you as the sender, but if your little voice began with questions and ideas in the body of this reading, communication of these ideas will not get to you and there will be no communication.

The question is: are you here and now when someone tells you something?

Create great communication

I hope GBY

Alfred

@ Culebro

Best Communication

When we talk about communication comes to my mind to define what is communication? and being simple, communication is "be as one", both sender and receiver must feel oneself in thought, be on the same frequency and people to achieve being Present (here and now).

One of the secrets of good communicator of ideas is to start by being a good receiver thereof (listening). The best sellers are people with the ability to listen to achieve genuine communication set.

This is why we first have to go to the world of other people and interest for them to achieve ONE feel.

The problem is that many times people keep physical silence to hear what the other is saying, but the chatter in my head will not leave me alone and starts to send information, for example, to be with your partner "that is not true, things did not go well "or with a customer" I know what you need. "

In both cases when you do this, you're breaking communication because you're not being one (and eye, the other might not notice but I sensed or perceived), in fact, sometimes I have been asked in the middle of a conversation "I're getting attention?", probably most of us has this ever happened to us and break the line to communicate clearly.

It's not easy because often the murmur of your little voice becomes very intense and do not even detect automatically because you have lived "quickly trying to think the best answer."

In my experience and practice, when you manage to be present and silence the little voice to listen to others, manage to sell or talks wonders and relationships that make your career and your life, and create communicative Harmony.

Hey, are you listening?

If you're now here and now reading this, I am communicating with you as the sender, but if your little voice began with questions and ideas in the body of this reading, communication of these ideas will not get to you and there will be no communication.

The question is: are you here and now when someone tells you something?

Create great communication

I hope 

GBY

Alfred

@ Culebro

I Buy?

Someone asked me if I was a salesman, my immediate answer was yes, but in my head seller a question is what? Came, I started trying to analyze me and understand what was selling and what was selling.

With this play of ideas and conversation with myself began to make stronger and more effective (was talking to my own little voice) trying to understand what sold, after a few seconds I threw my little voice told me a few words and whispering in inside, "you see, the end did not sell anything" and for a second I accepted without testing their opinion, but seconds later I realized that she (my little voice) I had already sold the idea that I was not selling anything. What a moment of clarity to understand that the most difficult sale that I make to myself of my own ideas!

Even in these internal messages that my little voice and I was convinced that I do not sell anything, there had been a sale in which I accepted that sold nothing.

I realized that the power is within you and many things in this life have to do with selling, you have in your life your own beliefs, mental buttons or patterns that you have dominated for years and do you live in so Automatic (say my "zombie dad") and often you are aware of them but do not act and many more you realize NO.

So I decided to write to make clear that these sales can determine my actions in life, now the question is how many sales ideas, you do not want, has made you a little voice? When are you going to take control of the most important sale in life? The beliefs of your own!

I hope

GBY

Alfred

Value of time

Time?

Normally when I start my workshops first thing I do is thank people for their time. Because for me is the most important asset or assets that we have, is not renewable and if a person gives you what we should appreciate it very much.

Now I will take an example from Michael Roach, also makes perfect sense to me. Some years ago (I) had the opportunity to work in a restaurant where the bread prepared for that people could enjoy freshly baked, it's amazing what happens behind this process so that you can enjoy a delicious biscuit. His creation is huge, if you will add people and the time involved is incredible, from the person processing the flour, butter, who pack, load, all others add to this with different ingredients until container arrives at the bakery, where baker kneading all starts at 5 am after leaves stand, and decorate it arrives at your table, and you enjoy it and you eat it with great taste in just 5 minutes, never imagining that behind.

It's amazing how not appreciate the value of time for each person I spoke. Many say selfish, and why! I paid to have it. That's not the point, because your money can not buy two minutes of anyone's life. I learned several years ago when my second son died, all the money and gold in the world did not help me to buy a second life of my little boy.

Not to be dramatic with this I want to try, first thank you for reading this, and then stir up some awareness and appreciation for the people involved give their time in your life, first you love and surround you, and also those that neither even met, but who gave their time for something that benefits you today.

Today I am grateful for the time of the people involved creating this phone, pc or tablet where I can write.

Thank you very much for your great time and delivered to you for reading this article.

The question is with whom you be grateful for your time today?

GBY

Alfred